05-23-2011 at 10:26 PM

I have heard some women say that popping their cherry was REALLY painful. Although I have noticed those who have told me that lost their virginity when they were very young. (Like 13-14) <br /> <br /> I'm really not sure that I agree that how careful your partner is has a lot to do with whether it hurts or not. My partner at the time was not particularly careful at all and it didn't hurt for me. There was about 3 seconds of slight discomfort and I was good to go. <br /> <br /> I have a feeling it just differs from person to person. Obviously, you don't want your partner to be jamming it in there the first time but I think even if they are sweet and careful depending on who it is it has the potential to hurt.

05-23-2011 at 2:47 AM

Oops, sorry for the double-post - my internet went wonky for a second, and restarting it apparently just caused problems :P<br />

05-23-2011 at 2:46 AM

I just have to say: contrary to myth, the hymen is not (or very rarely is) a solid barrier inside the body partl opening - usually it is a thin half moon of skin at the base of the body partl opening, keeping the opening slightly smaller. This ski is meant to stretch and accommodate, so technically, if your partner is considerate of you and willing to take some time, it shouldn't really hurt at all. And in some cases, a person's hymen is naturally open enough that penetrative sex will be fine from the start.<br /> <br /> When I first decided I wanted to be on the receiving end of penetrative sex, my girlfriend and I tried with the strap-on we used for her, and found out it was WAY too big for me. So for a long time she simply used her fingers on me, gradually increasing the amount each time (Note: having several fun times before trying penetration helps you relax!). We also bought a much smaller object to "practice" with - but technically all you need are fingers, so this will work for anyone. Just make sure your partner is willing to take the time with you, and be patient - it make take several (or many) tries before your body is comfortable enough to accept penetration. But if the person you're having sex with respects you, they should have no problem with this. Besides, there are multiple ways to have sex and achieve fun time, in the meantime :)<br /> <br /> Because my girlfriend was patient and considerate with me, my first experiences with penetrative sex were painless and pleasurable. They were also a great exercise in trust, and a very reassuring reminder of how much my girlfriend cares for me and loves me, and wants to make sex - of all sorts - result in only good feelings for both of us.

05-23-2011 at 2:07 AM

I just have to say: contrary to myth, the hymen is not (or very rarely is) a solid barrier inside the body partl opening - usually it is a thin half moon of skin at the base of the body partl opening, keeping the opening slightly smaller. This ski is meant to stretch and accommodate, so technically, if your partner is considerate of you and willing to take some time, it shouldn't really hurt at all. And in some cases, a person's hymen is naturally open enough that penetrative sex will be fine from the start.<br /> <br /> When I first decided I wanted to be on the receiving end of penetrative sex, my girlfriend and I tried with the strap-on we used for her, and found out it was WAY too big for me. So for a long time she simply used her fingers on me, gradually increasing the amount each time (Note: having several fun times before trying penetration helps you relax!). We also bought a much smaller object to "practice" with - but technically all you need are fingers, so this will work for anyone. Just make sure your partner is willing to take the time with you, and be patient - it make take several (or many) tries before your body is comfortable enough to accept penetration. But if the person you're having sex with respects you, they should have no problem with this. Besides, there are multiple ways to have sex and achieve fun time, in the meantime :)<br /> <br /> Because my girlfriend was patient and considerate with me, my first experiences with penetrative sex were painless and pleasurable. They were also a great exercise in trust, and a very reassuring reminder of how much my girlfriend cares for me and loves me, and wants to make sex - of all sorts - result in only good feelings for both of us.

05-22-2011 at 12:51 PM

I think it can hurt for girls their first time because their hymen breaks, but I heard it can be broken by non-sexual activities? & Anal sex and probably body partl sex can both hurt the first time unless you've had something... there before. Idk how to explain it without making myself sfsfhdfs, weirded out idk. :(

05-21-2011 at 12:08 PM

I LOVE anal sex :) Im the one who had to get my husband into it. <br /> I have hypersexuality, so I ALWAYS want sex :)<br />

05-21-2011 at 6:10 AM

Whether or not it hurts depends on a lot of factors Guardian, it can be amazing or somewhat painful. My first time was painful but the guy wasn't being easy at all, but I have friends who said losing theirs was extremely enjoyable.

05-21-2011 at 3:36 AM

i have never had it.Does sex hurt? Mostly for the first time?

05-21-2011 at 12:33 AM

LMAO at the raw steak comment! XD<br /> <br /> Day one I want just want to strangle someone. Day two and after I get stuck in "I NEED IT RIGHT NOW" mode, which sucks because my boyfriend passes out at the sight (and sometimes thought) of blood. No joke, he'll turn white as a sheet and hit the floor. I wonder what would have happened if he had been born a woman... Mwuaha.<br /> <br /> Personally, while I want it, I don't find it nearly as enjoyable as normal sex.<br /> <br /> <br />

05-21-2011 at 12:09 AM

It's the opposite for me, I do have an off switch during my period, however the last day of my period and the day right after I am as horny as a teenager.<br /> <br /> My man tries to put it in the other place while I'm on my period, he thinks it's a good excuse to do so. That I have a problem with, I just can't get comfortable no matter what. He loves it though, of course. There is just not enough lube in the world for me.

05-20-2011 at 9:51 AM

It's always so silly when guys who like to portray themselves as big and tough get totally weirded out by a little bit of blood - stuff we deal with on a monthly basis! I'm impressed by the mentions of guys who are fine with it, though - that makes me happy. I get hornier on/around my period, so I'd be miserable if my S.O. treated me like a non-sexual person during that time. I don't just have an off-switch during my period ::P<br /> <br /> My answer might be a little different though, cause I'm with another girl, but... we totally have no problem with having sex on our periods. A fresh tampon (and sometimes a bit of lube) makes going down on each other just as much good clean (or dirty?) fun as it is any other time of the month!<br /> <br /> We just put a towel down on the bed for anything else... and then shower together afterwards :)

05-20-2011 at 8:25 AM

I dont have a problem doing anything while its that time of the month for me. my husband doesnt mind either :)<br /> <br /> <br /> (your pretty touchy about this sim site being called a kids site, its not a big deal)

05-19-2011 at 5:32 PM

The raw steak comment while LOL worthy made me wanna puke a little bit XD

05-19-2011 at 2:08 PM

There are actually guys[and girls] who have a fetish for period blood, lol. That raw steak comment made me lol pretty hard

05-19-2011 at 4:39 AM

lol, I wouldn't let my boy touch me. But he -really- likes my blow-jobs apparently xD So he'll just settle for that (not like he has any say in it >D LarthPOUNCE) until I'm 'clean' again. xD

05-19-2011 at 2:31 AM

Nitrous - People are silly. You'd figure a vet who shoots people for a living wouldn't be appalled by a little blood XD Appalled so much that basic instincts of wanting to have sex even take a back seat to it lol XD

05-19-2011 at 1:47 AM

Haha. It's funny Bridgette, the one who wouldn't touch me was actually in the Army. xD I gave him a lot of shi.t for it. I almost wish he had hair...<br /> <br /> Could point him in the general direction...

05-19-2011 at 1:25 AM

LOL @ The last like 4 posts. All of them are hilarious. <br /> <br /> My husband couldn't care either way if I am on it or not. He still wants to get it on no matter what. Which amuses me :) On the other hand I do think it's gross and I generally get him to settle for a blow job instead when it's a bloody massacre down there. If it's super light I don't usually care. <br /> <br /> The comment about men eating women out on their period is funny too. I'm shy about that too but like someone mentioned my husband loves to do it. I will tease him and tell him he can't sometimes. Once I was ragging and I told him he couldn't and he was going for it anyway. I had to grab him by the hair and make eye contact and tell him "he REALLY didn't want to do that" lol XD

05-19-2011 at 1:02 AM

Nitrous that reminds me of a guy I know just as a friend, he says he likes it because it's like eating raw steak. How the heck is that a turn on? lmao. He loves cunnilingus in general more so than intercourse which weirds me out as well, this is coming from a guy. I guess also just because I am self-conscious of myself down there.. So if a guy's down there I constantly wonder what is going through his head. It reminds me of the doctor at the pap test. Heads down there make me nervous. (For no reason, I'm not saying I have a reason to be self-conscious)<br /> <br /> The self-consciousness got worse after pushing out a child. Gosh, that reminds me of the first love session after having my baby. T-o-r-t-u-r-e. It's funny though because after that time I swore I'd never do it again but hey.. that never holds up lol.<br /> <br /> <br /> <br /> <br />

05-18-2011 at 11:00 PM

I LOL'd, Sixth. <br /> <br /> I had one that would insist on going down on me while I was on it. I was weirded out at first, then I thought it was funny. :D<br /> <br /> I had another that flat out refused to touch me when I was on the rag. I'm not one to demand things, and I certainly never would if he was uncomfortable, but it shows a lot about the character of the guy.<br /> <br /> Show a little darn enthusiasm! <br /> <br /> Not like they taste good....ever...