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Alcemistnv [567 candy corns]
#3906 • 195 views
Posted: 2012-08-11 22:42:36
#11374
Stress levels way too high
Okay, so I've been having a lot of problems with myself lately.
Being home has increased my stress level to unhealthy levels.
I feel like I can't do anything in this house without being yelled at. My mom and I have been fighting non stop since I've been home, and I have hormonal 11 year old who also feels the need to create fights. There's a baby in the house and just knowing that he's going to get dumped on me during the day irks me. I'm sorry, I promised my mom I'd help with him, but forcing me to care for him right after I wake up is annoying. I have my own responsibilities (two fish and my dog), and I don't need to have my brother given to me so she can eat breakfast (because she chooses not to and instead waits until we wake up).
Granted, a baby is a handful. I am already 100% sure I do NOT want children. There's nothing fun about getting woken up at 4am and having to stay up for days on end. I don't enjoy the fact that you can't leave the baby alone. My brother SCREAMS when my mom leaves his sight. And we're just told to "deal with it."
I've already stated for YEARS, I just want my dogs.
But, with my being back in college in two weeks, I can say that I've never been so excited to leave this house. Even my friends know what I'm going through. It's hard to live peacefully in this house, and I just want to take m fish and dogs and go far away.
I just don't know how to deal with stress the right way. I used to draw, but now I'm starting to hate drawing. It's not fun anymore. I'm (in my eyes) a terrible artist, and I don't see my art getting much better than it is now. I try hard and get little to no recognition for what I do. It;s been like that for years. So why should I continue? Every time I look at a pencil and paper, I can't help but think about how inferior I am compared to others (such as the ala artists).
I'm starting to use fish keeping as my stress relief, but it only works until I;m being mocked at for loving and caring for my fish.
I just... need some advice and help, and I figure this is where to go..
Thanks to anyone/everyone who sees this and posts <3
Replies
Alcemistnv [567 candy corns]
#116949 • 2013-04-27 11:06:25
#116949
(being that this is a year later) I actually can't move out :( IT's been tlalked about, but the finances are too much, especially with the baby, and the fact that my sister is going into college as well. We don't have enough to pay the LEAST $500 a month on top of groceries and stuff.<br /> <br /> <br /> However, Ihave been diagnosed with anxiety so I have pills to calm me down...
Alaya Hatake
#116941 • 2013-04-26 22:38:58
#116941
Moving out is your best option. I'm in the same situation. Well, kinda. Let's just say my brother, his girlfriend, and I are the only ones in the house that cooks and cleans. Every time we don't, she yells her head off at us saying that just because our younger brothers are in school they get to just come home and play video games. And that's what stresses me out. And when I get stressed out, I get nosebleeds and get light headed. They get really bad in the summer, so my brother and I are both moving out and with his girlfriend and my boyfriend. Well, we are all trying to room together. Yeah. Moving out is best shot
Alaya Hatake
#116940 • 2013-04-26 22:37:44
#116940
Moving out is your best option. I'm in the same situation. Well, kinda. Let's just say my brother, his girlfriend, and I are the only ones in the house that cooks and cleans. Every time we don't, she yells her head off at us saying that just because our younger brothers are in school they get to just come home and play video games. And that's what stresses me out. And when I get stressed out, I get nosebleeds and get light headed. They get really bad in the summer, so my brother and I are both moving out and with his girlfriend and my boyfriend. Well, we are all trying to room together. Yeah. Moving out is best shot
Alcemistnv [567 candy corns]
#107977 • 2012-08-14 23:34:30
#107977
I unfortunately can't move out yet until I'm 100% able to drive and can afford a job. I was planning on (hopefully) moving into an apartment near campus next year, which is junior year for me. My dad is willing to pay for the rent, since it's cheper than the dorm costs in the long run.<br /> <br /> All I know is that this semester, I'm not coming home until Novemeber for Thanksgiving. I have lots of friends up there, as well as my fish. What kills me is leaving my dog behind. As much as he annoys me at times, he's still my baby and I'm afraid that my mom will just snap and throw him into the street like she always says she will. And if that ever happens, I think I just might have to rethink moving out ASAP permanately. I've already had one of my dogs die thanks to a family member's ignorance, I won't have another go.<br /> <br /> See this is what's bad. As I'm typing this, I'm getting ffustrated and annoyed. I hate it...
Shinobu
#107909 • 2012-08-14 01:52:26
#107909
I say moving out would be your best option. It did wonders for me, even though it was only temporary. I had moved in with Wayne and his mom for 3 months and my mom needed me back to watch my little sister because my brother had to serve time (because he's a moron).<br /> That three months was bliss. Never got fussed at for not feeding the dogs the right food or for my sister getting into stuff. I was able to do anything I pleased (which wasn't very much out side of making yarn tails and playing Alacrity xD) the only thing I had to think on was buying food for me and Wayne to eat so we weren't eating up all his mom's food (she was letting us stay there for free so I thought that buying our own food, giving her some pizza when we ordered it, a few basic chores and what not were the least we could do)<br /> <br /> I understand moving out isn't the easiest thing to do, but if you can do it, I say bale. Find a good job in a cheaper city (Cheaper as in has good quality but just costs less) and stay away from the negitive energy.<br /> <br /> For now, in addition to tending to your fishies, meditate. If at all possible, stay away from everyone who keeps putting you down. :3 I hope things get better for you, Al <3<br /> <br /> I also should mention, that 3 months away made my mom realize how important I was as a factor in keeping my sister and brother from fighting on a regular. She hasn't fussed or yelled at me in ages.
