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Yeah. I find it quite the double standard that if a girl goes out and owns her sexuality, she's a "slut" <br />But all the girls want the player? <br />Lawl.
I actually agree with ZJ: even if she did know, and even if she sleeps around a lot, it's not as if she forced him into sex.<br /><br />Plus, the word "slut" is sort of offensive in most cases, anyway.
Get it Geist, get it!
Generally if someone's cheating without a semi-valid reason (ie: so is being emotionally withdrawn, ltd relationship issues, sig others withholding/cannot have sex for long periods of time) the relationship is doomed. Time to end it. There are instances where cheating happens where it can be forgiven - see things listed above.<br /><br />Petty reasons like the period thing - which messy as it is, people have sex while the blood thing is going on - just mean it's more of a doomed relationship.<br /><br />However, on the other hand, I'm not sure if using the word "slut" to describe the person he cheated with is correct. Did this person know the guy was cheating? Does it really matter if she's easy? It's nit-picky but are you really going to call her the 'slut' like she's the reason he cheated? Don't use the negative connotations on her, it's him you oughta go after with a spoon to remove his testicles. He's the one who cheated. He wasn't seduced or find an "easy" opportunity, he wanted to cheat because he used a stupid excuse. He could've slept with anyone in the world, he just came across her first.<br /><br />Then again, I don't know her, so chances are she could be a 'slut' in the negative way.<br /><br />Anyways, sorry about the last bit, it's a personal rant because it's the cheater you oughta be blaming, not the person he used to cheat with.
Absolutely not. If all it takes is something as small as menstruation to drive him to cheat, he's clearly not mature enough to take that promise ring seriously. A relationship is a relationship, and trust is trust, with or without some cheap piece of metal hanging on your finger.<br /><br />Plus, as Geist pointed out, it was likely just an excuse. If he doesn't have the guts to even talk to his significant other about something as serious as "I am dissatisfied with our relationship," then he certainly isn't the type of person you should give a second chance.
Damn, Geist. Damn.
Paradox, I'm in the exact situation. I dated the kid almost two years ago, and we continue to hook up.<br /><br />Except he's never been good to any girl he's dated (including me), I don't think he's been faithful to even one person. And I'm not going to help change that because I feel bad. 99.8% of his girlfriends are possessive and think they're hot <font color=red>[Censored]</font> (most of his more recent girls are high school freshman, so they're quite a bit younger than both of us, I find it hilarious that they think "OMG, he's soooo hot, he is leik TEH ONES!22!!1 IM gunna marry him!!2111") They also naturally hate me because he keeps coming back to me. It's okay, I was the same way. <br /><br />But cheating is...weird. I've only cheated on one boyfriend. But I wanted to again and again. <br /><br />It's not something anyone who's started is likely to stop. If I /ever/ found out a boyfriend cheated on me, I'd drop him.
So Im generally not the kind to give advice however I figured the other side needed representation. <br /><br />I have been sleeping with a close mate of mine for over a year. Were good mates and nothing else. He is without fail the biggest <font color=red>[Censored]</font> I have ever come across. <br /><br />However I have seen him when he gets a girlfriend, he will do anything for them, drop everything for them. Be the honest to god most amazing guy around. <br /><br />Then he sleeps with someone else. Now im not trying to condone it, but considering I have been the one he cheats with on a few occasions. I can honestly tell you it is just sex to him. It doesn't change the way he feels about the girl, it doesn't stop him from being absolutely amazing. Its just sex. <br /><br />Perhaps I have greatly different views from everyone. But sometimes a relationship goes beyond this constant tied down commitment. If he keeps coming home to you, and if he keeps you happy . . . .
Being honest, No I wouldn't haha. Not that I'm afraid he would cheat again but if your going out with such a guy, and he is to easily infatuated by other females it might take some time before he can stick forever to one (or never).<br /><br />I think that made no sense :D