09-7-2011 at 5:22 PM

my cousin got his gf preg. and he didnt tell any one then people found out cause she got bigger in her belly he was a preme and was red so im not haveing one till after im 20 lol

09-6-2011 at 10:54 AM

Reading this thread makes me want to get my tubes tied.<br /> <br /> I'm 16 and a mother to 5.<br /> Four beautiful cats and a lovely 14 month old GSD.<br /> Wouldn't have it any other way.

09-6-2011 at 4:21 AM

I'm 14 at the time of this post(turning 15 this year) and I don't think 15 is the best choice to raise kids. I myself don't want to raise kids right now(I have this aversion to the 'little people' as I call them, and I'm not really the patient type) and besides, there's school to worry about.<br /> <br /> I have two cousins who did it, one before she even finished school and one who's working. I seem to have lost trust in them, but I think it's because they're so close to me that I'm quite fond of them, and suddenly this happens.<br /> <br /> It's much better to wait until your near-future is secured, like you have a paying job, a home, and all that, but it's still illegal to do so out of wedlock, or to not get married first. :3 So I prefer to get married, because the guy could(and will) leave you, for crying out loud! x3<br /> <br /> I want someone to love and vice versa, but I just can't imagine myself stuck at home, struggling with my studies and a child and Ala and CS and...and...D8 It's just impossible.<br /> <br /> Sorry if it seemed like a rant, but I was taught this and as I was writing, it just flowed, and, well...xD<br /> <br /> Good luck with your kid, and make sure the father also pitches in! If he doesn't, I'd like to kick him in the gut. >83

09-5-2011 at 1:46 PM

My perents say I cant have kids till Im 50 lol But I wouldnt have kids till Im happyly married. I am a vergin and Im 15 I dont plan on losing it till I have a good MAN in my life. Well if my dad doesnt scare him away :3

09-2-2011 at 8:16 PM

my sister is rasing a child at 15.its hard for here but shes getting by.she has the whole family sapporrting her.We all chip in th help rasie her Son.hes now 5 months and a very smart baby, hes my tag

08-31-2011 at 12:55 AM

I was 19 and not ready. My grandparents did a lot of the work, and I was often separated from my son as my parents and me didn't get along all that well for a long time. There was no need of him seeing us fight all the time. <br /> <br /> I would not want to have another small child again. I've had a foster son though, who came here by accident more or less, but he was old enough then not to need constant supervision. <br /> <br /> I agree with not having kids until you are in your 20s and are well settled.

08-8-2011 at 12:33 AM

I know accidents happen, but I think if you're emotionally fit and you at least accept the fact that you're bringing a new life into this world, then you are at least prepared for parenthood and should continue to be one. I'm not saying if you have a kid, keep having kids just for the heck of it, but I think it's okay for a teen to be a parent, only if they know what they are doing and they have people to help back them up. I myself can't imagine having a kid as young as I am, but I love kids and whether I have some at 18 or 36, I want them. I want to grow up a little, seeing as my age group in school tends to have more people becoming pregnant. I've always wondered if I could be a young parent, but I always know in the end that either it happens or it doesn't and if it doesn't then it's someone else's experience. Yes I think that becoming pregnant at a young age is sort of irresponsible, but it would be even more so, if the parent just left their kid with their family and expected them to raise it, instead of doing it themselves.

08-7-2011 at 5:35 PM

I, myself, am 15 and couldn't really imagine having a child, much less two, right now. I definitely want kids and my boyfriend wants kids... we're just not ready, and won't be for a while. We want to be married first, then kids. Granted, things don't always turn out like that. I don't expect things to be perfect for me in life, but I'll take all measures to help it go my way :)<br /> <br /> If I were to have a kid now, however, my boyfriend and I would be able to financially support it (very unusual for teen parents). I'm capable of finding a parttime job, and he works a high-paying full time job (and he's only 18). But, I don't think I'm emotionally ready to have a child. I need to do some growing up myself! I would be able to spend a lot of time with the baby, I don't go out to parties, I'm almost always at home. However, my boyfriend does work a full-time job and he's young, it would be important for him to be with the baby. We already can't spend enough time together as we want, and so it would be <i>incredibly</i> difficult to factor in a child!<br /> <br /> But, I do have friends who have kids who are my age and younger. Obviously, some things just... happen. Depending upon the situation, you might not be able to help it. That's not usually the case, though. It's usually a not-so-good decision after the other.<br /> <br /> It's really just that a lot of young parents aren't able to support (financially, emotionally, etc) a child when they're still growing up themselves. That doesn't mean that you aren't, but I've found that for the majority of teen parents, that is true.

08-3-2011 at 11:03 AM

I agree with all, having kids at 15 isn't the proper age, the "Adult" Doesn't know enough to teach the child proprly, I have A babysitter and my parents to help.<br /> <br /> Seeing how many people have kids at 15-19 are in the education theys still need. 19-21 is much better and 21-35 is the best. Settle far from the mark :)

08-3-2011 at 11:00 AM

Personally, I think people ought to hold off on having kids until they're in their very late 20s or early 30s. I think most people aren't mature and prepared enough until those ages to deal with all the responsibilities of a child. No parent is perfect, but if you're going to have a child, your goal ought to be to mess that kid's life up as -little- as possible, to give it a good, loving home, and raise it to become a decent human being. Like it or not, your failures as a parent will often stick with a child all their lives in one way or another, and if you're not prepared, you're bound to damage your child emotionally and/or psychologically, or at the very least damage your relationship with them, which can have serious consequences when that child grows into a young adult and starts seeking out their own relationships. It's ridiculously easy to give a child complexes and affect them negatively. I think the best thing any pregnant child could do is let a loving family adopt their baby. Keep in touch, give the adoptive parents a way of contacting you at any time, and continue a relationship with that family so that you can still have occasional contact with your child and know how they're doing. That child would probably be in far better hands than your own, and you'd be helping a couple who might not be able to have children of their own.

08-3-2011 at 3:30 AM

The others sort of said my thoughts already. I myself am 15 and wouldn't even imagine having kids unless I was over 18 and had a very stable job.<br /> <br /> Right now it's hard enough supporting 2 dogs, that's about 90 a month just on food. Finding a decent job at this age is hard.

08-3-2011 at 3:21 AM

All of you are right but I can't post what happend to me like all. If you want to know message, I don't feel comfortable saying much here.

08-3-2011 at 3:07 AM

My mother had me when she was 16, back in 1984. The economy was doing better then than it is now, and I still wound up being raised by my grandparents, which was actually much better for me in the end, but they still couldn't afford to put me through college.<br /> <br /> Having been around my mom growing up, I can definitely say she was absolutely unprepared to have a child at that age as she lacked the maturity. She still lacks the maturity, but it was way, way more pronounced back then. She would have much rather gone out to party than staying at home dealing with me. In fact, that's the choice she often made. She always lived near my grandparents and I remember her showing up and being around, but she was usually hung over and worn out from partying and hanging out with her friends.<br /> <br /> And with my friends growing up who got unexpectedly pregnant? It was always the same thing. And my younger brother's girlfriend who got pregnant was the same way. She didn't choose parties and is trying to raise my niece on her own, but having a kid as young as she did has pretty much ruined her life.<br /> <br /> To be completely frank.. due to my own considerable experience, I think it's foolish for anyone under 18 to have kids. And even then, it would probably be better to wait until at least 20.

08-3-2011 at 2:21 AM

One of my own major concerns in such a situation is the ability of the parent in question to support the child/children properly. At the age of 15, jobs are even harder to come by than normal, and the economy isn't exactly running strong. The burden of paying for the kids then falls to the grandparents, who likely don't have enough to support the entire family...and especially if you consider school/college costs for both the teen parent and the children.<br /> <br /> Add to that the potential cost of emergency medical care (and routine care that really needs to be done on a child that young that most cannot afford), and the reality is that most - not all, but most - children born to parents as young as you're discussing don't start off with a lot of a chance of getting proper care. Also, considering the average 15 year old is still in high school, the child's education won't start off from a necessarily strong point. Not because the teen parents may be stupid, but because they have not learned all they need to know, yet, and aren't really in a good position to be educating another.

08-3-2011 at 12:46 AM

Quagga- It is awesome being young and in school! It is nerve racking at times but it's OK and not really hard for me, I have my sisters helping and she has a room, and It didn't offend me the slightest bit, what offends me is.."You lost half you life, I hope you don't dies" and such, but you are fine/

08-3-2011 at 12:41 AM

My personal opinion on young parents - that is, younger than 20 - is that, while you're body may mature enough, typically you are still <i>very</i> young; you're in school, you don't have a house, you can't move out, and you aren't always the wisest person as a "kid"... And so, I wouldn't encourage being a parent much at all. And please, I don't mean to offend you or anyone else; I myself am 16. I just feel that most teenagers don't have the mental maturity, or the "ability," to be able to be proper parents... For a variety of reasons. <br /> <br /> However, I have no doubt that there are still some young parents that can properly care for their child. <br /> <br /> I guess it would be good to hear from a young parent, themself, first, though! What <i>is</i> it like?