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Posted: 2013-07-27 03:04:37
#12660

No longer in love with my girlfriend? (longggg.)

First off I would like to say that I do identify as bisexual. Growing up as a little girl I knew I was different and I found myself attracted to more than just guys, but to the same sex. I am a teenager..
Well, I am dating a girl right now who is named Jonnie. Jonnie is absolutely amazing. We were friends quite awhile before we ever started dating. I was once MADLY in love with her. We had an off and on relationship and for now it's on. I find myself still in love with my ex who is a male, Brandon. My relationship with him was off and on since we were kids. My relationship with Brandon was always full of drama. He had attempted 2 almost successful suicide attempts over me not long ago. We had broken up for a couple of months and me and my ex girlfriend Jonnie had somehow gotten back together.
I still talk to Brandon through texts and see him occasionally and it makes me feel terrible because I find I'm falling back in love with him and losing my love for my girlfriend. Brandon is moving to Tennessee August 2nd and I feel like I'm running out of time to explain to him how I still feel for him.
But then there's my girlfriend Jonnie.
When she tells me she loves me and how beautiful I am and how she can't live without me.. It makes me feel so poopty because I don't think I feel the same about her anymore. I liked it better when we were strictly best friends. I don't want to break Jonnies heart if she's truly in love with me. I however do not want to lead both of them on or cause either one of them to do something stupid like Brandon had in the past.
It's all so confusing having feelings for 2 people who offer you 2 different experiences and loves. I have memories with both of them I share a bond with both of them.
Ugh. I feel like I'm going insane. :/ Any experiences with anything similar? Any advice? I sure could use it.

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#118573
Okay, so by you saying you're a teenaegr, I'm assumng you're either 18 or 19.<br /> <br /> Meaning that you're still in the stages of being unsure. I don't mean unsure of your sexual orientation, but unsure of what exactly you want.<br /> <br /> I don't want to come off rude or mean, so if I do, I apologize greatly.<br /> <br /> But I think that by what you're saying, you're not necesarily falling back in love with him, but that you're more of pitying him..? Too much of a strong word but I'm unsure of what to say. I'll get back to this.<br /> <br /> Have you thought of maybe him just being a good friend? I sometimes think I'm "falling in love" with someone, but it's never that, more of I'm finding them to be a really, REALLY good friend of mine. <br /> <br /> I think that you really find out, I'd do a little exercise. On a list of paper, write down both their names and list the things you love the most about the person. Is it their eyes? The way they laugh at your joke? Or maybe it's how they smell. You might realize that this isn't necessarily a romantic love you feel towards them and that it's more of a friendship love?<br /> <br /> <br /> Now going back to what I said earlier about Brandon, I think that if someone if attempting suicide because of you, I think it's something to approach delicately. If you continue with this relationship with him and it doesn't work, he might try to hurt himself again. Maybe before you think about continuing anything with him, maybe talk to him?<br /> <br /> <br /> This is honestly something I'd do and I know people share different ideas and thoughts so I'm sorry again if I offended anyone.<br />

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