I think this kind of relationship is 100% possible, and if it is what feels right for you, then you should definitely try to pursue it. <br /> <br /> I know people who are in open relationships, where they have one "main" partner, but many other partners with whom they have sex/do other fun things, as well - and this totally works for both people in the relationship. I also know people who are in "threeway" polyamorous relationships, where all three people involved care equally for the other two - it seems like a more complex relationship to initially get into, but the love they have for each other is wonderful, and the happiness they get out of the relationship is definitely of a healthy variety. While what you are describing is slightly different from either of those types, I think it is actually quite similar in terms of emotional logistics - and certainly in terms of how it differs from more mainstream monogamous relationships. So I would definitely take heart in the fact that other people have made things work out in similar situations.<br /> <br /> I think the biggest thing is communication. Just as monogamous partners both agree to be monogamous, you and your potential partners would all need to be aware of EXACTLY what you are agreeing to. I know of one potential open relationship that feel apart because, although both people were okay with being in an open relationship, one partner betrayed the "terms" that the other person had requested, when they first defined what being in an open relationship meant to them. <br /> <br /> Basically, everyone has a different definition of what they mean by "open", and what they want out of their relationship(s), and it is INCREDIBLY important that you and your partner(s) be open with each other - and also be willing to compromise. Perhaps, just as an example you want to keep each relationship separate, but one of your partners isn't comfortable with the idea of being open unless they get to meet your other partners. Although this may not be what you would ideally like, you have to remember that your partners "need/want" certain things out of their relationships, just as you do . Even a perfectly "normal" monogamous couple will have differences (i.e. some people view watching p.orn as cheating, whereas my girlfriend and I are very monogamous but also completely okay with the other watching p.orn), so this is not just an issue in "non-traditional" relationships. Basically, all relationships will only work with communication, honesty, and a little bit of compromise.<br /> <br /> I don't mean any of this to be preachy, or like I don't think you're capable of realizing this on your own. I do think you are! I just have seen multiple failures of this sort, due to lack of communication, so... I thought I'd jump in with this advice while I had the chance. Best of luck to you!
