it can be like that ;)<br /> but yeah, just never get involved with nothing you aint comfortable with. your dude/chick want to do something rough and you don't? tell em to gtfo. if they are cool, they will respect what you want :)<br /> not everybody likes rough s.hit, not everybody like soft s.hit, not everybody like bdsm and not everybody likes vanilla. <br /> <br /> I think a lot of fanfics and whatnot revolve kind of around BDSM and false "uke" and "seme" bulls.hit that yaoi fans spout lol <br /> <br /> i havent heard anybody that is gay that isn't obsessed with anime ever say "seme" or "uke". We use terms like dom/sub (not exclusive to gay community, but common in BDSM community) and top/bottom (not exclusive to gay community either, but much more common than in straight sex communities.)

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You know what bothers me?<br /> <br /> I've been reading fanfics, and I've noticed that people describe/write sex in a very VERY weird way. <br /> <br /> Like, it seems like most of the time, I'm reading work from virgins and they write about sex as if it was some hot, angry, aggressive wrestling match. It kinda completely throws off any desire I have to do it.<br /> <br />

Zack, that's normal. I don't know one person that wants to fall asleep with sticky parts lol

I'm old enough and what I say is the truth

I always feel the need to take a show afterwards, don't know why

Giving a just b.lowjob in a shower is like getting waterboarded<br /> <br /> as for funny/weird sex locations?<br /> A walk-in closet.

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I wonder why no body talks about the funny, awkward, sometimes mortifying aspects fo sex? <br /> <br /> Ah the shower. What a place to have such an awkward time. The lighting? Not the most pleasant where I am. The "energy saver" bulbs make everyone look very...chalky and pale. The confined space makes it less than appealing when your husband is 6'4" and has leg problems so it's hard for him to stand for any given amounts of time. Then there's the question of "Exactly how in the hell am I supposed to position myself around him??" It's a clumsy mess. Water's in your face so you're constantly wiping it. Probably the least romantic spot to do it. <br /> <br /> Imagine trying to squeeze some late night nookie in with your man while your roommate is in the other room, absolutely no door and a very thin wall separating him from the two of you? Oh the joys of living in a studio apartment.

Blaaah I'm afraid of sex.<br /> <br /> It seems both terrifying and wonderful at the same time.<br /> But I'm paranoid about everything, so of course this would be no exception.<br /> <br /> Just the slightest mention of people saying it hurts freaks the daylight out of me.<br /> It's funny, though, because I'm not really afraid of pain. I horseback ride and have taken some bad, painful falls. I get over them, though. When my muscles are sore, I don't take pain meds.<br /> But for some reason the though of sex hurting scares me.<br /> <br /> /nerd

Probably.. <br /> <br /> ||||||||||||||||||||||<br /> <br /> Hey Greek, you don't need to prove anything to us ^^. If you haven't done anything that's fine and if you have, it's not going to make you seem cooler =) Its just another aspect of life is all. It does appear though that you seem to be under the age of being allowed to post in here ^^;<br /> <br /> ||||||||||||||<br /> <br /> Yeah clay.. I just.. xD

I'm going to assume someone below the age of 18 who can't behave maturely?